Creating a Better Home for Married Couples.
Never bother your partner. If you say something twice, it would be better to make a suggestion, and give examples. Proverbs 27:15 tells us, that a continuous gutter on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are the same things. Don’t push your partner to the limit. If you do what is right, your partner will change. When it comes to judging, you have to leave enough points aside. God will take care of the situation in His time. If you work out your salvation with fear and trembling while you look upon Him as above yourselves, it will eliminate any desire to push Him to the limit. Philippians 2:12 teaches us to work out our salvation with fear and trembling and to look to others above ourselves.
Don’t criticize. Peter says, Husbands, in turn, show wisdom in your relationships with your wives. 1 Peter 3:7. In other words, the Lord will ask you to use your brain instead of your feet. Show real appreciation. If you show true appreciation for your partner’s good qualities, it will help encourage them to change in other ways.
Give some attention. It helps if you give your partner a moment of your time, even if you are actively engaged in an affair. Because your action says: “I’m really interested in you and what you’re interested in!”
Be courteous and show respect. Courtesy is considering the feelings of the other person. Silly magic words please, thank you and I apologize. As Jesus said. Math 7:12
Whatever you want others to do for you, do the same for them. Read a good book on sexuality in marriage. A satisfying sex life plays an important role in a good marriage. This is not innate knowledge, so don’t be afraid to seek mature advice on the subject. It is so important that the Bible devotes an entire chapter to this subject. In 1 Corinthians 7 we read “Let the husband repay his wife what he owes her, and the wife do the same to her husband. Don’t deprive yourselves of each other. A sexually satisfied partner can be a big help.
Husbands
Always bringing small gifts home for no special reason. Do you remember your wedding anniversary and his birthday? Do you give a little attention or tenderness at an unexpected moment? Never devalue your wife in the presence of others. A woman is a part of her husband and when he criticizes her in the presence of others, he attacks! It is often said that you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.
Do you allow your wife to have money beyond household expenses? Do you understand when your wife is going through moments of stress, fatigue or depression? Paul says in Ephesians 5:33, Moreover, let each of you love his wife as himself, and the wife respect her husband.
Do you spend at least half of your free time with your wife? 1 Peter 3:7 says, Husbands in turn show wisdom in your dealings with your wives. Are you the type of husband who compares his wife’s cooking to that of his mother or his wife’s friend? If you’re actually doing this, hopefully, it’s with the intention of putting your wife in the spotlight.
Are you interested in your wife’s views? Interested in the books she reads, her work at church, the different problems that emerge, etc. Are you looking for opportunities to admire it? Praising clothes, or one’s general appearance can help. Proverbs 18:22, He who finds a wife finds happiness; It is a grace that he obtains from the Lord.
Are you grateful for the little things she does for you? Like sewing a button on your shirt, repairing your socks, or picking up your suit from the cleaners. Paul says in 1 Thessalonians 5:18, In everything give thanks. Women, Do you leave comments about working hours or business associates? It is said in Proverbs 25:24, It is better to dwell on the corner of a roof than to share the dwelling of a quarrelsome woman.
Are you trying to make your home attractive, interesting, and pleasant to live in? It’s a way of showing your love by considering what your partner likes and dislikes. This can be very rewarding. Do you surprise him with different gourmets in his meals, so that he doesn’t know what new thing awaits him?
Do you understand your husband’s affairs, at least on some level, so that you can discuss them with him and help him? Can you accept a lack of money without criticizing your husband or comparing him to other successful men in life?
Do you make a special effort to accommodate his parents and other family members? It says in 1 Corinthians 13:8, that charity never fails. When charity is applied in daily life, the result is a happier household.
Try to dress in styles and colors that your husband likes. It’s the little things like these that can mean so much to your partner, especially when it’s accompanied by their favorite scent! Do you despise small differences of opinion for the sake of harmony? Roman 14:19, Therefore, let us pursue those things which bring peace and mutual edification.
Make an effort to spend time with him, and learn some forms of recreation that he enjoys. It is very important for a woman and a man to learn to do things together.
Try new ideas, new things. This way, you can stimulate and maintain your husband’s interest. It says in James 3:7, that the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, moderate, and conciliatory.
Comprehension Sheet of Pastor Gracius N Germélus
